If you have long-term illness or impairments you may be used to limitations, i hope you have developed a positive life including some work and relationships that you enjoy. But if not, you are not alone! And there is hope.

                   Shock and feeling down (depression) 

            are normal reactions to loss, illness or disability. 

If you are new to impairments or illness, changes and loss can be extremely upsetting

Athletes may be forced to become spectators

career oriented people may become unable to work

sociable people may regress into isolation

independent people may be forced to become more dependent on others

Some find they can’t maintain many relationships. 

Some lose people they thought were friends. 

On top of all that,

Many conditions cause sexual pain or dysfunction that create emotional and physical health problems and strain relationships. As with most people, sexual relations and health are extremely important, but often remain unaddressed for persons with disabilities and chronic illness.

People with acquired or lifelong impairments CAN enjoy a sex life, as shown by research. Supportive attitudes and practical planning do allow persons with impairments and illnesses to engage in sensual and sexual activities, and these are extremely beneficial. 

        Where do you go to safely talk about this        

  uncomfortable topic, & get real, useful, information?

To my office for sessions at a special low rate if needed

When family is a problem: Caregivers, naturally wishing to protect the disabled friend or family member, may discourage or interfere with romantic involvement, prevent them joining various activities, and may dote too much on the person coping with illness or impairment. Caregivers need support too and are very welcome in group or sessions!

Research shows that impaired or chronically ill persons who are encouraged to make friends and date, are mentally and physically healthier and enjoy better quality of life.

You CAN flourish with disabilities or chronic           

    illness but you may need help to do so

                    and you deserve it!

so pick up the phone or email for group or session info!

707-266-1269                lovehelp@me.com



Managing Positively

Deal with depression: If you can approach life complicated by impairment/chronic illness with specific positive behaviors, you can help control ongoing or growing depression. If you have understandable difficulty rising above negative thoughts and feelings with positive actions, get specialized help to keep depression from becoming overwhelming and consuming. Many people who do not have an illness or disability struggle with depression and need help!

Gather facts: Becoming educated about your particular condition can help you control fear of the unknown. Without facts from a variety of sources, you may develop distorted thoughts and unnecessary fears.

Avoid isolation: Feeling physically bad, feeling worthless, lack of confidence, and other discouraging thoughts and emotions can develop with long term and increased disability. You may not feel like joining family and friends. But it is important to maintain contact with other people and include yourself in activities. Here are some options that you may be able to try:

spend time with family and friends

take a class, on—line or at a local adult ed center or community college

join a support group for people with your disability or illness

regularly do any form of movement or exercise that you can

join a spiritual or church group, or learn about various spiritual activities

do any work you are capable of

volunteer or help others in any way you can

share hobbies

join interest groups

join on line groups and look for events to attend

listen to music, which is proven to have powerful effects on brain and emotion

if your life allows, have a pet

if going places is a problem and your situation allows, have small parties or interest group events where you are


Of course your physical condition may limit your ability to do some of these things, but if you’re not active because these or any other activities feel impossible to you, support groups or a counselor knowledgeable about illness and disability can help you find your strengths, and connect with people who value and accept you along with your limitations.

*Networking group may not always be happening. go to arthritisfoundation.org for other possible groups and support programs in your area.

707 676-5678                                   lovehelp@me.com